In today’s video, I respond to a reader who writes “My girlfriend told me her ex was better.”







Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with retroactive jealousy when your girlfriend tells you her ex was better.



















Zachary Stockill: A young man reached out to ask an important question about the fear of not being the best his partner has ever had.







If you’re a man struggling with retroactive jealousy, this is a video you’ll want to watch.







I’m Zachary Stockill, and since 2013, I’ve been helping men and women around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and strengthen their relationships.







If you’d like to learn more about my work or work with me one-on-one, please click here.







Recently, I came across a comment on one of my YouTube videos that really made me stop and think.







My heart goes out to this person—I’m assuming it’s a guy.







P writes: “How can you be okay with your girlfriend saying her ex was a better lover?“







Alright, P, I think some viewers of this channel sometimes get the wrong idea about me—and that’s on me. I should be communicating certain messages more clearly and more often.







What I mean is:







Some people seem to think that I believe you should stay in a relationship no matter what—regardless of your partner’s past behavior, what they say to you now, or how your relationship is going.







Even if you’re unhappy or struggling with something we might consider retroactive jealousy… But that’s not what I believe. I don’t believe that for a second.







Over the years, I’ve worked one-on-one with over 1,000 coaching clients.







And while it’s rare, there are times when, after working together for a while—sharing ideas, going through their story, exchanging feedback, and doing various exercises—it becomes clear that staying in the relationship might not be the best option.



















Sometimes, in the end, my clients come to realize that they’re in the wrong relationship—that their needs and boundaries are fundamentally at odds with their partner’s.







When that happens, they often decide to move on.







So, to be clear, sometimes walking away is the best choice for everyone involved.







And I want to emphasize that—it’s the best choice for everyone involved.







But I’ve noticed that this idea seems to annoy some guys.







Some want to leave their partner in a way that completely breaks their heart, as if that’s the goal.







The truth is, if you’re in the wrong relationship, staying in it doesn’t serve anyone—even if your partner seems happy.







Because eventually, they’ll pick up on your unhappiness, if they haven’t already.







And that’s only going to lead to more drama and complications. You get my drift.







Now, that brings us back to P’s comment.







Sometimes, walking away really is the best choice for everyone involved.







He asked, How can you be okay with your girlfriend saying that her ex was better in bed?







If you’re asking me personally how I would handle that situation—how I would feel about it—it really depends on the nature of the relationship.